Negative beliefs

The reason that it "hurts" relates to "Important Things" #2 above. If you've previously, or are still, "acting from a foundation of lack of unconditional self-love," it does hurt, it does feel lonely. And, it is really good that you're realizing that you're feeling this emotion! WHY say this? Read on ...

Remember that emotions, (once you know this), don't just happen to you. They are always the result of a belief that you are expressing. If you use emotions this way, they now become your best friends, because only when you realize and acknowledge that you're still expressing an old belief that you really want to change, can you now finally change it. Owning your current beliefs is the key to choosing newer, more useful beliefs. However, these steps need to go in order. Own it first. Now you own it.

That feeling of loneliness IS the emotion that is revealing to you that somewhere along the line in your life, likely someone said something unkind (and untrue) about you, and not knowing any better, you bought into it and began to act as though it was true. And so, you continued to get that result, the result of someone feeling unloved, which of course is ... loneliness, and pain. And believing this, and acting that way, which is putting out that frequency, results in people staying away, letting you down, not being reliable. Because that is what that frequency attracts, and this then seems to "prove" that you are lonely, it's a cycle.

The rest of #2 above reminds you about your place in the Universe, basically the fact that if you are here, it cannot be an accident. All-That-Is is a perfect expression and simply does not make mistakes. How could it?

All-That-Is MUST think that this Earth can not exist without you, or you wouldn't be here. And here you are.

Take some real time to absorb the profound implication of this. Because it is true, that you belong here, and from a more expanded level of your consciousness you actually CHOSE to be here, but have just temporarily forgotten, you can tap into this. You can tap into the fact that the Universe loves you, with absolutely no conditions. No conditions means that if you "mess up,", make a mistake, even do something that you regret, All-That-Is always still loves you completely and unconditionally. When you get a piece of this realization, and begin to feel it in your heart, you will never feel lonely.

How can someone be lonely if they know they are always loved? When you understand this, decide you will now express the belief that you are always loved unconditionally, at least at this point by All-That-Is, you will act differently than you have been acting all these years.

And those different actions can only change the result that you get. And those new actions are a completely different frequency, which will can then only attract different people. These new people will prove to you the new belief, that you are loved unconditionally. And you will only interact with loving people, the others you will allow to be on their way, unless they become nice. And you will notice that the people who do not go on their way and leave your life, some will suddenly seem to change into nicer, more loving people. If you change, often others seem to change because you're attracting a different aspect of them now.

So, owning that you are currently still expressing the belief that you are unloved, and deciding instead to express the belief that you are always loved, you'll then begin to feel differently. You'll get the positive emotions that result from positive beliefs and actions.

This is where the technique here in this recording will help you so much, but only if you do it with the two beliefs, "I am unloved," and, "I am always unconditionally loved." Go do this, feel the difference between these two beliefs. It will make it so much easier to choose and act with the new belief, now that you're owning that you have the old belief. GO do this and come back and tell us what happens. And take your time, slow down, no rush, breathe, operate from calmness. And this will also be part of the new you.

Remember, once you get your Earth life in order, and are not longer operating from loneliness and pain, then contact becomes possible too. You'll have lovely new Earth friends, a beautiful new Earth lover and an ET family, all of it. It's a win-win-win.

So go! And have some fun with this. Its the best way to transform. Things don't have to be so serious. This will strengthen your legs because it helps you to form a stronger foundation. This technique is fun, simple and enlightening:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GunHjCXcsf0

'You'll have lovely new Earth friends, a beautiful new Earth lover and an ET family, all of it. It's a win-win-win.'

Why can't we have any of that with this community? If allowance is the key, what would it take to make that a possibility. Why is finding the right soul mate so difficult and what would it take to finding them? I want to settle down with someone I love so that I can be of greater service, why is that so hard in the 21st century. 🥲💜

You can and do have friends here, who already like you, so that's already happening. Finding the right "soulmate" goes back to what was shared about creating your own complete primary relationship with yourself first. Saying that you can be of greater service with someone else is the same as saying you are not complete already now, and not able to give the greatest service, right now, already, alone as your full self. And you can be of the greatest service now, already, you are able to.

Following your excitement with integrity leads the way to this, not finding someone else first. One has to go in order. You can't skip a step with this. Once you follow your excitement and act on it with integrity, you create new results from that. These results are of greater service. Without a partner. The partner comes later.

It does feel a bit ironic sometimes to know that the way to transform loneliness is to feel complete first, and then one attracts a mate that reflects completeness. However, that's how it works. As long as one is radiating that they not already complete, the more the outer reality, including relationships, reflect that back.

Physical reality is like a big shiny mirror, it can only reflect back to you exactly what you put out. There's no fooling it. The mirror always shows you what you're putting out. IF you keep writing things like "I want to settle down with someone I love so that I can be of greater service, why is that so hard in the 21st century." then you keep putting out that: 1. you are not able to be of greater service yourself already, hence you feel incomplete, and;

2. that things are so hard. You are expressing those beliefs.

If you look in an actual mirror and you are frowning, you can't tell the reflection in the mirror to smile while you are still frowning, the reflection can't even do that, it's always a direct reflection. You first have to smile yourself on purpose, then the mirror shows the smile. Every time, it's always only a reflection.

It's the same with expressing the belief that you are not whole already, feelings of being incomplete. If you are putting out the belief that you are not already complete, which is a choice (even though we've been taught to believe its an observation), life has to reflect that back.

If you smile in your soul because you are feeling the unconditional love of All-That-Is, relishing it, basking in the glow of it, and MATCHING that love toward yourself, the mirror reflection of your life and reality has to change. It's a reflection.

If you decide that you're complete already, the loneliness melts away, because the loneliness reflection needs to have you expressing the belief of incompleteness in order to reflect loneliness back to you. Loneliness is a reflection of the expressed belief that you are not whole and complete right now, and that you need something outside of yourself to make you complete.

If you put out an expressed belief of wholeness, the mirror has to reflect back a reflection of calm contentment, happiness, satisfaction and joy. It all starts with each one of us.

Now, go and do this, because this is how you change an expressed belief:

Have you done this yet? If you did, tell us how the exercise went for you and if you got the point. If you did not, please go. It's a great technique, very simple, very quick, and entirely effective. Nobody can do this for you. This is a participation sport, as we keep saying. If you're truly serious about changing you can only do so by applying the things that are being shared, not only reading them.