Hi Cat. Have you tried redefining these experiences as something other than painful? We move away from what we perceive as painful and don't get to really look at it as a result. Since memories are recreated in the present moment, they are being offered up in your reality in order to view them in a new light. Not to sound simplistic for I know these things can run deep and I respect whatever process you need. We are humans not mechanical devices after all. I go into the furnace quite often myself.
edit on 6/23.... instead of giving a positive meaning at first, see if you can get neutral to the event or person you feel at odds with. Let it give you the positive message itself rather than you ascribing one to it. Ask how does even this serve me. Find out how it does.
Ever notice how 'the worst thing that could ever happen' often turns out to be the "Best thing" sometime later? The event was the same but the meaning shifts according to how we look at it. How we choose to look at it. How it plays out in the long run. There are powerful good forces at work in our lives... just have to see it.
Hi Cat. Have you tried redefining these experiences as something other than painful? We move away from what we perceive as painful and don't get to really look at it as a result. Since memories are recreated in the present moment, they are being offered up in your reality in order to view them in a new light. Not to sound simplistic for I know these things can run deep and I respect whatever process you need. We are humans not mechanical devices after all. I go into the furnace quite often myself.
edit on 6/23.... instead of giving a positive meaning at first, see if you can get neutral to the event or person you feel at odds with. Let it give you the positive message itself rather than you ascribing one to it. Ask how does even this serve me. Find out how it does.
Ever notice how 'the worst thing that could ever happen' often turns out to be the "Best thing" sometime later? The event was the same but the meaning shifts according to how we look at it. How we choose to look at it. How it plays out in the long run. There are powerful good forces at work in our lives... just have to see it.